The pressure of being in your 20s

 Twenties, the number all teenagers fear. Being in your twenties is not easy for many people, because of the big expectations that are expected from you now being an adult. When you are a teenager, life is almost carefree, if you make a mistake, you can just blame it on your stupid teenager ways. Yet, the moment you shift from nineteen to twenty life changes in ways you never thought it could. Being a teenager, you don't really need to worry about adult responsibilities just yet, maybe a few but not the big major ones. We would normally rely on our parents to deal with it because, "hey I'm just a hormonal teenager who loves to party and be lazy."

                                              

Being in your twenties has become so stressful lately, everyone expects you to have your life in order already. What do you mean I'm supposed to have my life together? The transformation from high school to university is already a massive shift in our lives and for many it takes a well to adapt to those changes. Yes, I may be an adult now but that doesn't mean I have my whole future and life ready yet. There's this huge belief that the moment you are out of high school you need your own apartment, car and part time job. Do people forget those things cost loads of money and not all parents can give that to their kids just yet because of the financial struggles in life.  

For some reason there's a bit of competition that comes with it, to almost show off that you have had a greater start in adulthood. "Guess what, I'm getting my own apartment!" "My parents are buying me my own car can you believe it?". Humans are natural showoffs; we always want to brag about a new possession because it boosts our self-esteem in a way. While some individuals may enjoy displaying their achievements, others may prioritize humility or find satisfaction in more private forms of self-expression. Sometimes we need to be careful on who we are bragging to because not every individual has the privilege of being gifted these things so early in life. Of course, you can speak to a friend about your new beginnings in life but to keep talking about it and rubbing it in can start to make your friend feel ashamed on what they haven't achieved yet.

                                     

The world expects you to have a boyfriend/girlfriend in your twenties and if you don't it becomes a lecture on how you're getting older and need someone to settle down with. Hello??? What do you mean settle down?? I've just come out of high school, started university and looking for a part time job, a relationship is the last thing I'm worrying about. Of course, there's always that underlying fear for those who haven't achieved the relationship life during high school that they might never find someone at this age. You are not going to be alone for the rest of your life, someone is out there looking at the stars hoping to find you one day. To the people who are in a committed relationship, don't be rushed to settle down just yet. Live your life first, travel with your partner, experience life before the whole marriage and baby talk begins. To everyone out there, this is the decade to immerse yourself in everything, travel the world, do your bucket list, go find love, make mistakes and find your tribe of people. Let this new chapter of your life begin the way you want it to. 

Live unapologetically! 💜